As a coach, I think it’s important to work with a coach…and my coach, Michelle Bauman, is brilliant! She shared something with me a few weeks ago that I keep coming back to. I keep deepening into it and even, sharing it with my clients.
It’s so valuable and poignant I want to share it with you. She said:
“I once heard Caroline Myss say that what causes people unhappiness is chasing after a life that’s not theirs. It was so powerful for me to hear that – and it got me so much more curious about what is MY life – MY path – who am I called to serve – who are my people to coach. Who do I want to spend my life energy with? Who is asking me for my help? etc. I’m so much happier and more fulfilled when I’m true to my own calling. And I’ve spend plenty of time looking at what others are doing – attempting to use what they are doing to inspire me to “go bigger” or “do more” etc. And, it’s an interesting process to discern what is inspiring in others, what triggers my own ego desire to be “special” – and what does my heart truly want.”
She’s talking about the courage to live YOUR life. Not someone else’s. And, not the one your ego tells you you should live, but the one your heart expands into.
Doing this is a courageous act. And, it’s not like you do it once and it’s done. You get an opportunity to choose it every day. In every aspect of your life—in your work, in your relationships, even in your body.
Are you chasing after a dream that’s not yours?
I certainly have in my past—especially when it came to my body. I was chasing a dream of a body that wasn’t mine. A body that wasn’t possible for me. And day in and day out, I lived in a torturous cycle of punishment, guilt, shame and embarrassment. I considered myself and my body a disappointment…and, it totally sucked.
I just kept holding onto the position that if my body were different, my life would be better. That when I was taller, thinner, with larger breasts and no cellulite, THEN I could wear a bikini. Then I could find love. Then I could wear skinny jeans.
I thought a thinner body was the key.
I didn’t know it then, but I was missing out on so much. I was not only missing out on all that body was and could do. I was missing out on the beautiful relationship that exists between she and I now. I was missing out on experiences and pleasures. I was missing out on life.
If you are reading this and thinking this IS me too. That you are chasing after a body that’s not yours, then I invite you to slow down, take a breath and join me for a special event I’m hosting:
I’m leading a complimentary call for you. On it, I’m going to be sharing more about what I did to stand in MY body. To fully own HER—and care for her…and ultimately free myself so that I could stop missing out and start living full out!
I’ll also be opening the line for individual coaching—meaning, you will have an opportunity to work something personal and specific to you.
If this sounds like something you want to be a part of, click the link below and enter your name and email address on the form on that page. You’ll receive all the call-in details—including the date, time and call-in number after.
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And, if you don’t want to be a part of it, that’s totally fine too. This is all about you attuning to what YOUR heart wants.
I’m excited to connect with you on the call so, together, we can explore how you can open your heart to YOUR body and live your life more full out.