The Sweetness of Being
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As we approach the holiday weekend here in the States, I've been reflecting on the idea of permission.
Isn't it interesting how holidays become the rare times we allow ourselves the freedom to rest, play, and be spontaneous? Yet, in our daily lives, we tend to block that same permission, reserving it for “special” occasions.
Sure, our everyday routines require us to respond to tasks and demands, but what if we allowed ourselves to rest and play more often? What if we didn't wait for a holiday to give ourselves that gift?
For many, the idea of more rest and play feels out of reach because of deep-seated conditioning. We've been taught that rest, play, and even love must be earned. There's a belief that you have to work hard before you can relax or that changing plans means you'll disappoint someone.
Beneath this conditioning lies even deeper misunderstandings: the need to be good, likable, and worthy. We've internalized the message that our worth is tied to what we do, how we perform, and how well we meet expectations.
So often, we equate being busy with being successful. We pack our calendars with work, tasks, calls, emails, caring for the household, and other projects, taking pride in our long, grueling days. We buy into the idea that this is the way life is and we have no choice.
But what if you knew—without a doubt—that you were already worthy and lovable, just as you are? What if nothing outside of you could make you better in any way?
Because that's the truth: You are worthy simply because you exist. The tree that produces fruit is no more worthy than the tree that doesn't. The tree that doesn't is still valuable just by being. It provides beauty, shade, and nourishment for other animals.
You do this too. You provide beauty, nourishment, creativity, and love just by existing. Let yourself take that in.
As you do, take a moment to consider this question: Am I open to creating space in my calendar for rest and play? For simply being?
When you reach the end of your journey, will you really be proud of the 200 emails in your inbox, or will you cherish the quiet moments spent with loved ones, like watching the sunrise with your partner?
Life is made up of these moments. Yes, work and responsibilities are a part of it, but there's an entire world beyond that.
This weekend, I invite you to give yourself permission to embrace more moments of simply being—less doing.
And if you're up for a challenge, take a look at your calendar over the next few weeks. Block out time for play, rest, and fun. This might mean postponing dinner with a friend or asking a family member for extra childcare so you can treat yourself to some “me” time.
You're not doing this because you've earned it or need an excuse. No, you're doing this simply because it's your birthright. You're here to experience the magic and wonder of life.
Cheers to bringing that holiday spirit into everyday as you transition into the fall.
With loving,
Amber
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