Over the weekend I assisted my coaches, Michelle Bauman and Carolyn Freyer-Jones, at a workshop they led for professional women.
One of the exercises they shared I found particularly poignant—so much so that it has inspired to me break some rules! I love breaking rules, don’t you?!

In essence the exercise is asking yourself two questions:
In order to have what I want, what do I need to do more of?
In order to have what I want, what do I need to do less of?
Obviously, the first step is dreaming into and getting clear on what it is you want and then from there, answering the questions.
Given this weekend was about work, here’s some of what I wrote:
More:
Trusting MySelf & My Inner Guidance
Making Requests / Submissions
Writing (for my book!)
Connecting and Serving / Being Out in the World
Following what’s Fun
Less:
Worrying
Pleasing
Working
Comparing
Beating Myself Up
In reviewing these lists, and choosing to honor myself and my values, I have decided to make a change in my email correspondence to you. In the past I did my very best to connect with you every Wednesday.
Starting today, I’m only going to write when I have something I really want to share with you. Something I consider highly valuable, inspiring, transformative and so on.
I’m no longer committing to a particular day of the week or frequency, like all the online business gurus say to do. Nope. I’m doing what feels good to me – and trusting that is the most powerful choice I can make.
I’m giving myself permission to break the rules.
Now, it’s your turn. I invite you to slow down today and consider what you want – in your life, in your work, in your relationship, in your body, etc. In a way, the more specific the better.
Then, ask yourself the two questions above – What do you need to do more of and then less of to have what you want?
Feel free to share your lists in the comments below.
I hope this process is as impactful for you as it has been for me.
See you sometime soon, I’m sure.
With love,
Amber
Great blog, Amber. I broke my Wednesday blog rule last week because I simply didn’t have time and needed to take care of me during this crazy busy phase in my life. It felt good. Let’s break more rules together!
Dear Christie: Awesome. I so acknowledge you for taking good care of yourself!
“God is always working to make His children aware of a dream that remains alive beneath the rubble of every shattered dream, a new dream that when realized will release a new song, sung with tears, till God wipes them away and we sing with nothing but joy in our hearts.”
– Larry Crabb
Came in my email today and thought of you.
Dear Rich: Thank you so much for sharing here.