I shared a story at a recent live workshop that really made an impact on the women who attended. I’m getting so much feedback about it I’m passing it along to you.
I’m a fan of taking stock and setting new goals and intentions at the New Year. I’ve done it for as long as I can remember. And, I remember years – at least five years in a row (if not more) – writing down the EXACT. SAME. THING…
A body I love.
To be making six figures.
To be in a loving, respectful romantic partnership.
Basically—Body. Money. A Man.
I wrote this over and over and over. And, every year I set out to “get” those things – doing pretty much exactly what I did the year before even though it didn’t work!
I went looking for “the one” – the one diet program that would change my body. The one online program that would teach me how to make more money. The one man that would be the perfect fit and make all my dreams come true.
I often found myself saying: “Maybe this exercise program/money book/man will be “the one” to give me everything I’ve always wanted.
And, every time I came up empty; thus, repeating the same exact cycle year after year after year.
This pattern continued until I stopped looking for the one “out there” and started looking at the one “in here.” I was the one – and didn’t even know it! I had been blind to it for years.
I slowed way down and started to get to know myself and my body. And, that was the first step and ultimately the choice that broke the chain of Body. Money. A Man.
Once I healed my relationship with my body and opened up to a kinder, more loving way of being with myself, my life vastly improved and it was so much easier for the money and the man to appear.
This is why I created the Rock Your Body Challenge. It’s not just some woo woo sweet idea – it’s not some luxury or “nice to have”. This is about your relationship with yourself.
This is THE relationship that frames every other experience in your life.
I want you to have the guy and trip and the career – but let’s be real – you and I both know if every time you look in the mirror you go “gross/disgusting/ugly”, if every time you slip on a pair of jeans you say “I’m fat” and other mean things to yourself – it doesn’t matter what goodies (money/partner/adventure/new shoes) show up in your life – you are still going to feel like you’re not enough.
I know it seems hard/crazy/scary/weird/impossible – and that’s ok. That’s what I thought too. But you know in your heart I speak the truth: If you are at war with your body – your life will NEVER feel as fun and fulfilling as it would if you loved your body.
I’ve been thinking about the transformative power of love. When we love things, they don’t stay the same – they transform. So we try to hate our body into changing – and it never works. We love it conditionally (i.e., only when we are a certain number on the scale) – and that doesn’t work because conditional love isn’t love – it’s approval. (Tweet it!)
But when we truly love something it transforms. Sometimes it transforms physically and actually looks different and sometimes the way we experience it transforms – but it doesn’t really matter which. Love changes things. Period. We know this experientially. We know babies fail to thrive and literally can die if they aren’t loved. And, even though we “know” this intellectually – we don’t act like it – especially when it comes to ourself and our body.
You know, the diet industry is a multi-billion dollar industry. Not multi-million. Multi-billion. It’s entire job is to keep you feeling insecure and not enough – so you keep looking for the ‘fix’ out there in their products.
I wonder what the world would be like if the self-love industry were a multi-billion dollar industry? Where we actually put our resources and commitment in learning how to support ourselves in a loving way.
Would we be kinder to ourselves and others? Would we have more compassion and generosity? Would we have more time? More creativity? More abundance? More freedom? More fun?
If you’d like to find out, please know I will walk with you every step of the way. I will share with you everything I know about how to change your relationship with yourself.
If this sounds good to you, I invite you to join me in the Rock Your Body Challenge – starting Sunday April 3rd. (It’s virtual – so you can partake from the comforts of your own home!)
There are only 12 spots left. If you want one, I recommend taking action ASAP – as the course will sell out.
This program won’t open again for a whole year. So, I ask—do you want to spend another year writing the exact same thing on your New Year’s list? Do you want to spend another year torturing yourself and your body with another diet/exercise program? Do you want to keep hating your body into changing? That answer is completely up to you.
One possibility…you could sign up for the Rock Your Body Challenge right here and start transforming your entire life today.
With tremendous love and compassion,